Long Distance Relationships: Tips to Make them Work

Long distance relationships often get a bad reputation and are said to never work out. However, with the popularity of online dating increasing every day, more and more people are falling for people who live far away. This is resulting in an increase in long distance relationships. While all will not work out, as is true for any type of relationship, there are things you can do to help ensure that your relationship has the best chance of standing the test of time.

Call Each Other

You should talk on the phone every single day. Think about it, if you live in the same city, you most likely talk every day and this helps to keep things going. However, since you do not see each other often, talking on the phone every day is even more important. Another really good option that you should use when possible is being able to see each other while talking. This is something that most new computers are capable of today. All you need is a webcam and a program for this, both of which are easy to get going, and usually come with new computers, so they are free. You could eat dinner “together” with this, or catch a movie or television show “together” by doing this. This will help a lot when you find that you are really missing your significant other.

Occasional texts and emails are also very helpful. Just a quick, “thinking of you” text can make a world of difference. This can be done in seconds and has been shown really helpful with long distance relationships.

Gifts are Important

This does not mean you need to be spending hundreds every month. A single flower, a lunch or even a home made gift means so much more than a pricey necklace or electronic item. For example, if you know your significant other loves a certain type of wine or coffee, send a bottle or bag. A picture of you two in a frame or even just a card with a nice note are plenty to keep the romance alive. Just like couples who live in the same city, keep the bigger items for bigger things like anniversaries, birthdays or a holiday special to the two of you.

Even Trip Exchange

You are going to see each other at least a few times per year. You want this to be even. For example, your significant other and you need to visit each other and not just one going to the other all of the time. If only one of you is making the trip then this will eventually lead to resentment. If you two decide to go on vacation together, it is a good idea to each pay your own way. This is another way to keep things in the relationship even.

It Usually is not Personal

It is hard to keep an open mind when you and your significant other only see each other a few times per year. It is easy to think that he or she is cheating, losing interest, etc. It is important to not take the occasional missed phone call personally. Of course, if this becomes a frequent habit, then you might want to think about the relationship, but if it has only happened a few times in a year then things are most likely fine and you need to worry less and enjoy all of the good things more.